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Reflection

Sat, 10 Dec 2011 00:57:57 +0100

Well, first to let you know I am a BIG procrastinator. I shouldn't be, but I am. On both of these assignments I was staying up late on a Friday night doing the assignment, also on these these assignments I was more knowledgeable and had more experience in these areas. On both assignments I asked my family some questions to get my brain juices flowing, they also helped when I was stuck in an area or needed some advice. I picked these assignments because I thought they were my best ones and the ones that I did by my self the most. If you look at my assignments you could probably see a great change in they way I write.

Spanking

Mon, 05 Dec 2011 22:29:39 +0100

If I were a parent, I would consider it violent to hit a child on the buttocks, closed hand or open hand, even if they are disobedient. Hitting a child across face is worse than hitting a child in the buttocks. Spanking is just a form of punishment and there are other ways to punish someone, like a timeout. Dr. Sears, a well respected pediatrician and Associate Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at the University of California, Irvine, School of Medicine, had something important to say in hisarticle “10 Reasons Not to Hit Your Child”. “Spanking demonstrates that it's all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people.” I was spanked by my mom and my dad. My dad spanked me more than my mom. My mom only spanked me once. I kicked my mom's belly when she was very pregnant with my little sister. I think I deserved itbut my mom still feels bad because she says she knows she did it because she was angry and she believes that is definitely a really wrong time to spank.

I think it is not acceptable to spank your child no matter what age they are. Spanking them to teach is not the answer. If you spank a child all you’re doing is teaching them it is okay to hit. All I can remember when I got spanked is that I got hit. I don’t remember “why” at all and that is probably all a child remembers.

It seems to me that when we hit we are angry. When we were young we were all probably told it was wrong to hit. Why don't you follow that when you are older? Maybe parents/caregivers should go in time out. You might be surprised how well it works! It does you good. I think adults forget or don't know that we need to take break now and then, an adult “time out”. We need a break even more when you're angry.

I think it never should be acceptable to use physical punishment of any kind or under any condition. It isn’t necessary, no matter the age is a child. Would you physically hurt someone that is your age? Why would you hurt someone younger and littler than you?

Kinship

Mon, 05 Dec 2011 22:23:48 +0100

The roles that I play in my family are sister, daughter, niece, cousin, and granddaughter. I am the oldest of four children. I am the second oldest granddaughter on both sides of the family. I am one of many nieces and hardly any nephews.

My role as a sister is to help with homework, put up with conflicts and help resolve them, care for them when needed, and pick them up after school. My role as a daughter is to be caring and kind to my siblings, do things when asked, set a good example, and fill in for my parents. Being a niece means I have to be kind, caring, respectful and understanding of my aunts and uncles and how they run their families. As a cousin I have to be willing to do things I extremely dislike doing. I will be put in the situations where I have to endure extreme craziness and loudness for hours (something I really dislike). It can get so loud it feels like you are at a football game and you are sitting right next to the band. That is what a niece and a cousin is like; a headache. As a granddaughter in my family you become accustom to being jealous. My grandparents go to Hawaii and Sun Valley at least two to five times a year to both places. They never take any grandchildren or their own children. The worst part is that they take their bunny Sassy. Sometimes I cannot believe that I am jealous of a bunny! I have to endure how great their trip is and endless texts with pictures of the great time I am not having or the sites I’m not seeing. I have to be like a daughter to my grandparents and be grateful.

My rites are few. My rite as a sister is make decisions in my siblings’ behalf when my parents aren’t there. We call this the “OAH” (the oldest available Hart). My rite as a daughter is to voice my thoughts and opinions. I also have the right to live at home and use the car as long as I’m responsible. I also have the rite to have medical care (at least my parents say so). I don’t feel I have rights as a niece. As a cousin I have the rite to give my opinion. Finally, as a granddaughter I have the rite to be loved no matter what I do.

A longtime family friend, Pete, has become part of our family. He is great friends with my dad. They are so much a like that they are like brothers. They joke that they are, “Brothers from another mother.” We lived many years as neighbors. My only obligation is to have a good time with him. No rites included.

This is what kinship is like for me in my family.